100 Questions to Ask Your Parents Before It's Too Late

There's a question you've been meaning to ask your parent. Maybe it's about the year they almost didn't marry your other parent. Or the job they quit before you were born. Or what they actually thought about you when you were sixteen.

You keep telling yourself there's time.

For most of us, there isn't as much as we think.

That's not meant to frighten you — it's an invitation. The conversations you keep putting off are among the most valuable you'll ever have. Not just for you, but for every generation that comes after you. Your grandchildren will want to know who these people were. Your great-grandchildren might too.

This list of 100 questions is designed to help you start those conversations — thoughtfully, joyfully, and without feeling like you're conducting an interrogation. Use it as a starting point, not a script. Let one answer lead naturally to the next. You'll be surprised where it takes you.

How to Use This List

You don't need to work through all 100 questions in one sitting. That would feel like a job interview, not a conversation. Instead:

Pick 3–5 questions per visit or call. Let the conversation breathe.
Start with the fun stuff. Questions about childhood, favorite memories, and quirky moments open people up before you get to the heavier topics.
Ask follow-up questions. The real gold isn't in the answers to these questions — it's in what comes after: "And then what happened?" "How did that make you feel?" "Did you ever tell anyone else that?"
Record the conversation. With their permission, capture the audio. A transcript is good. Their actual voice is irreplaceable.

The 100 Questions

1. Childhood & Growing Up

This is where almost every great conversation starts. Childhood memories are vivid, often funny, and they reveal who your parents were long before they became your parents. These questions tend to unlock everything else.

What's your earliest memory? How old were you?
What was your bedroom like growing up? Did you share it with anyone?
What games or activities filled your free time as a kid?
Who was your best friend as a child, and what did you get up to together?
What were you afraid of when you were little?
What did you want to be when you grew up — and did it change over time?
Was there a moment in your childhood that you think shaped who you became?
What was school like for you? Were you a good student? Did you ever get in trouble?
What did your family do for fun together when you were young?
What's something about your childhood home that you still think about?

2. Family History & Ancestry

Every family has a history that stretches back further than any of us know. These questions help recover it — the immigration stories, the hardships, the people who were never talked about, and the ones who shaped everything without anyone realizing it.

Where were your parents from originally? Do you know much about their lives before you were born?
Is there a family story — a migration, a hardship, a remarkable moment — that was passed down to you?
What do you know about your grandparents? Do you have any memories of them?
Were there family members you were close to who aren't here anymore? What were they like?
Are there parts of our family history that you think got lost or were never talked about?
Do you know if any of your ancestors lived through a major historical event — a war, a depression, a migration?
What's the oldest family photo you know of? What's the story behind it?
Has anyone in our family ever researched the family tree? What did they find?
Were there traditions or rituals in your family that you loved? Any that confused you as a kid?
Is there a family member you never got to meet but wish you had?

3. Love, Relationships & Marriage

These questions tend to make parents laugh, blush, and occasionally reveal something completely unexpected. Approach them with warmth and genuine curiosity, and you'll often hear stories they've never told anyone.

How did you and [other parent / your partner] first meet? What was your first impression?
What was your first date like?
When did you know you were in love?
Did you have relationships before this one? What did you learn from them?
Were there people in your life who influenced how you thought about love or marriage?
Did you ever have your heart broken? What happened?
What's the hardest thing you've been through as a couple? How did you get through it?
What's something you love about [your partner] that you don't think you've ever said out loud?
What advice would you give someone just starting a serious relationship?
If you could go back and do your wedding differently, would you change anything?

4. Career & Life Lessons

Work consumes decades of most people's lives. Behind every job title is a story of ambition, sacrifice, pivots, mentors, near-misses, and hard-won knowledge. These questions surface it.

What was your first job? How old were you, and what did you earn?
Was there a moment in your career when you had to make a really difficult choice?
Who was the most memorable boss or mentor you had? What did they teach you?
Is there a job or opportunity you turned down that you sometimes wonder about?
What were you genuinely good at in your work — something you were proud of?
Was there a period when work was really hard — financially, emotionally, or otherwise?
If you could have had any career — no limits — what would you have chosen?
What's the most valuable professional lesson you learned the hard way?
Did your career turn out the way you expected when you were young?
What would you tell your younger self about work and money?

5. Parenting & Raising You

These questions take some courage to ask — and even more for your parents to answer honestly. But they're worth asking. The answers reveal what they hoped for you, what scared them, and what they're most proud of.

What were you most nervous about when I was born?
Is there a moment from my childhood that you think about most often?
What did you want for me when I was growing up — beyond the practical stuff?
Was there a time when you worried about me that I didn't know about?
What do you think you got right as a parent? What would you do differently?
Was there something I did as a kid that genuinely surprised you?
Did parenting turn out the way you expected? How was it different?
What did you secretly find funny about me when I was a teenager?
Was there a moment when you realized I had become my own person?
What do you hope I carry with me from our family as I get older?

6. Beliefs, Values & Worldview

These are some of the deepest questions on this list — and often the ones that get skipped entirely. But understanding what your parents believe, and why, is part of understanding them as human beings, not just as parents.

What does faith or spirituality mean to you? Has that changed over time?
What do you believe happens after we die?
What's a political or social change in your lifetime that you think was genuinely good?
Is there a cause or issue you care about deeply that most people don't know you care about?
What's a belief you held strongly when you were young that you no longer hold?
What's something you think most people misunderstand about the world?
Who has had the biggest influence on the way you see things — a person, a book, an experience?
What does a good life look like to you? Has your answer changed?
What do you think is worth fighting for?
If you could pass one value or belief to every person in our family, what would it be?

7. Favorites, Quirks & Fun Memories

Not every question needs to be heavy. Some of the most treasured recordings are the ones where your parent is laughing, trying to remember who sang that song, or admitting to something a little embarrassing. This section is for those moments.

What's a song that always takes you back somewhere specific? Where does it take you?
What's the best meal you ever ate? Where were you?
What movie or TV show have you watched more than anything else?
What's the strangest thing you ever did that, at the time, seemed completely normal?
Is there something you were secretly obsessed with that most people don't know about?
What's the funniest thing that ever happened to you?
What's the best trip or adventure you ever had?
Did you ever do something that you now realize was genuinely dangerous at the time?
What's a hobby or skill you once had that you wish you'd kept up?
If you could relive one day from your life exactly as it was, which day would you choose?

8. Regrets, Wisdom & Advice

These are the questions that often produce the most honest answers — and the most useful ones. Most parents don't get asked these questions until it's too late to give a real answer. Ask them now.

Is there something in your life you wish you had done that you never did?
Is there something you said to someone — or didn't say — that you still think about?
What's a relationship in your life that you wish had turned out differently?
If you could go back and give yourself advice at age 25, what would you say?
What's something you used to worry about that, in retrospect, wasn't worth worrying about?
What's the most important lesson life has taught you?
Is there anything you've carried with you for a long time that you'd like to let go of?
What do you know now that you wish you had known when you were raising me?
What would you tell a young person today about how to live a good life?
If you could change one thing about the world, what would it be?

9. Health, Aging & Legacy

These questions acknowledge reality without dwelling on it. They're about what matters, what's next, and what your parents want remembered. They're also the questions that take the most courage to ask — and the most grace to answer.

How do you feel about getting older? What's harder than you expected, and what's better?
Is there something about your health that you wish the family understood better?
What does a good day look like for you right now?
Is there something you want to accomplish or experience before too much more time passes?
How do you want to be cared for if things become more difficult as you age?
Is there anything important you want to make sure I know — about your wishes, your accounts, your plans?
What do you want to be remembered for?
What do you want your funeral or memorial to look like? (It helps to know, even if it's hard to ask.)
Is there something you'd like to say to me that you haven't said yet?
What's the most important thing you want to make sure you leave behind?

10. The Questions Most People Forget

These are the questions that fall between the obvious categories — the unexpected ones that often produce the most surprising, moving, and memorable answers.

Was there a version of your life that almost happened but didn't? What would that life have looked like?
What's a moment in history that you actually lived through — and what was it like from the inside?
Is there someone in your life you've never properly thanked?
What's something you're genuinely proud of that has nothing to do with family or work?
What has surprised you most about who you turned out to be?
Is there a story about yourself that you've told so many times it's become something of a legend — and what's the version you've never told?
What's a question you've always wanted someone to ask you?
What do you think about when you can't sleep?
Is there anything you've never told anyone that you'd be willing to tell me now?
What do you want me to remember about you, above everything else?

How to Actually Have These Conversations

Reading a list of questions is easy. Having the conversation is harder. Here's what actually works.

Don't interrogate — invite

The difference between an interview and a conversation is who's doing most of the listening. Your job is to ask and then get out of the way. Resist the urge to fill the silence. Let them think. The best answers often come after a pause.

Start with stories, not questions

Instead of "What was your childhood like?" try: "Mom, I've always wanted to know more about what it was like growing up in [city/era]. Tell me something I don't know." A story prompt lands differently than a question.

Use photos as memory triggers

Pull out an old photo album. Spread a handful of old pictures across the kitchen table. Old photos bypass resistance and activate memory in a way that questions alone don't. "Who's that?" is often the most powerful question on this list.

Make it low-pressure and regular

You don't have to sit down with a formal intention to "capture their life story." Some of the best conversations happen on a drive, over dinner, or during a holiday visit when your phone is quietly recording in your pocket. Start small. Keep starting.

Record it — with permission

Ask first. But do ask. Most people, once they understand why you want to record, are touched by the request. A voice memo on your phone is fine. A purpose-built tool is better — but the most important thing is that it's captured in some form that survives beyond your memory.

Come back to the threads

If your parent mentions something in passing — "that summer I almost moved to Paris" — write it down. Come back to it next time. The best interviewers treat every conversation as an episode in a longer series. Nothing is wasted.

Why Voice Beats Text

You can ask your parent to write down their answers. You can send them a weekly email prompt and hope they respond. (This is, roughly, how tools like Storyworth and Remento work — and they've helped many families capture meaningful memories.)

But there's something these approaches can't give you: the actual sound of their voice.

When you read a transcript, you get the words. When you hear a recording, you get the person — the laugh that breaks up the story, the pause before the hard part, the way their voice softens when they say your name. You get the rhythm of how they tell a story, and the details that would never survive a written edit.

Forty years from now, you won't remember what your parent wrote. You'll remember what they sounded like.

This is why Fable was built the way it was. Fable is a voice AI interviewer — it asks questions like the ones above, listens to the answers, and follows up based on what your loved one actually says. It's not a list of prompts. It's a conversation. And because Fable builds context across sessions, it gets better over time — learning what your parent has already shared, what threads to return to, and what questions to ask next.

The result is something text tools can't produce: a rich, organized archive of your family's stories — in the voices you'll want to hear again.

→ See how Fable works

Getting Started

You've read 100 questions. You probably have three or four already running through your head — the ones that stopped you, the ones you've never asked.

Start with those.

You don't need a special occasion, a perfect setup, or a plan. You need a phone call, a dinner, or a drive — and the willingness to ask one question and actually listen to the answer.

If you want a more structured way to capture these conversations — in your loved one's actual voice, automatically organized and preserved — Fable was built exactly for this.

Try Fable free — the first three conversations are on us, no credit card required.

Or if you want to give this experience to a parent or grandparent as a gift, a year of Fable is available for $99. We handle the onboarding; they just talk.

→ Start capturing stories free
→ Give Fable as a gift

Frequently Asked Questions

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What are the best questions to ask your parents before they die?

The most meaningful questions tend to be the ones no one ever asks: What's a moment in your life you've never talked about? What do you wish you had done differently? What do you want to be remembered for? Beyond those, start with childhood — it opens people up — and work your way toward wisdom and legacy. Our full list above organizes 100 questions across 10 categories, from lighthearted to profound.

How do I get my parents to open up and share their stories?

Don't start with questions — start with curiosity. Pull out old photos. Mention something you've always wondered about. Make it feel like a conversation, not an interview. The questions in this list are designed to invite stories rather than require answers. Many people also find that being asked to share their story — especially by someone they love — is one of the most meaningful things that happens to them.

How many questions should I ask at once?

Three to five is ideal per conversation. The goal is depth, not coverage. One good answer that leads somewhere unexpected is worth more than twenty surface-level responses. If you're capturing the conversation, you can always come back next time.

What's the best way to record family stories?

The simplest way is a voice memo on your phone, recorded with permission. For a more structured approach, tools like Fable conduct actual AI-guided voice interviews — asking follow-up questions, building context across sessions, and organizing stories by topic automatically. The key difference from tools like Storyworth (which sends weekly writing prompts) or Remento (which records voice responses to fixed prompts): Fable's AI actually listens and follows up in real time, the way a skilled interviewer would.

What if my parent says their life isn't interesting?

That's one of the most common things parents say — and it's almost never true. The detail that feels ordinary to them is often extraordinary to you and your children. The summer they worked at a factory. The friendship that ended badly. The moment they found out they were going to have you. These stories are there. They just need a reason to come out. The right question, asked with genuine curiosity, is usually enough.

What should I do with the stories once I have them?

At a minimum, don't let them live only in your own head. Back up voice recordings. Transcribe what you can. Share with siblings and extended family — you'll be surprised how many people didn't know those stories. Tools like Fable automatically organize audio clips by topic and life phase and make them shareable with family members. The goal is that the stories outlive the conversations.

When is it too late to start capturing family stories?

The honest answer is: earlier than most people think, and later than many people fear. If the person is still here and able to speak, it's not too late. Start today. Even one captured conversation — one recording, one story — is infinitely more than nothing. We've heard from people who recorded their parent three weeks before they passed and still consider it one of the most valuable things they've ever done.

Is Fable different from Storyworth or Remento?

Yes — significantly. Storyworth sends weekly email prompts; users write their answers; the result is a book. Remento is more voice-forward: users receive prompts and record voice responses, which are transcribed and turned into a premium book. Both are structured around prompts and books. Fable is structured around conversation. The AI doesn't send questions and wait — it conducts an interview, listens to the response, and follows up based on what was just said. It also builds context across sessions, so the conversations get richer over time. And Fable preserves the actual voice audio — not just text — as the primary output.

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